Today I took my 9 year old to his “Primary Care Provider” to speak with her about getting his ADHD diagnosed and getting him on meds. I told her what we had been doing thus far to keep him on-task and focused and what wasn’t working and what was working. The last time we saw a doctor about Xander’s ADHD, the Doc looked at me like I was a crazy mom who just wanted to drug her kid into submission – sooooo not true. I just see a lot of ME in him and want him to be able to function like a normal(ish) person.
But I digress. This doctor seemed to be listening but would interrupt me every so often and not let me finish my thought. I have ADD – I can be long winded, I know, but let me finish a damn sentence! She made some notes and then told me that he had to be seen by the ADHD Clinic at the local big military hospital. Okay, fine, works for me since I’d love to speak with someone who knows what they are doing (hopefully). She told me that they would call within 10-12 days so I asked her “what if they don’t call?” and she looked surprised. Yes lady, I know how you military docs work ….
She garbled something about them maybe not calling if they don’t think he needs to be seen – if the doctor doesn’t think he needs to be seen. I said “but you’re the Doctor” and she responded with, a confused “I guess you can call them in two weeks if they don’t call you.”
I might be reading into things wrong, but, that sounds to ME as if she (the doctor) doesn’t think he needs to be seen by the ADHD Clinic and will put that in her notes? Every time I mentioned having done the research on some of the medications available she told me that “we don’t want to jump to medicine” and that “there are classes he can take” … Okay? Classes that he won’t be able to focus on because his mind is elsewhere? I live with this child every day and I see how he ticks. I’ve spoken with his teacher on a number of occasions and she sees how he ticks. So, I am a little unnerved and irritated by the idea of not being able to speak to an ADHD/ADD person because the doctor had a 10 minute visit with Xander and I and deemed him “just a normal 9 year old boy.”
I will wait out the two weeks, then I’m going to be up their asses finding out what my next step is.