Hi faithful readers!! I’m still here – promise! Just dealing with a new little one tends to take precedence over blogging as you can imagine! I have her “birth story” all queued up in “drafts” but need to finish it and add a stellar photo. Wrote it ages ago but hadn’t gotten a chance to finish it.
My beautiful, sweet ginger-kitty Skippy is in the final stages of Feline Leukemia. His sickness came on so fast that we really weren’t prepared to deal with it emotionally (I mean all of us – the whole family). One day he was fine and the next he was hiding out behind the television. We had to force him to eat and drink and doing that he was only taking a bite or two. Just two days later he was hiding out all day in my bathroom. I’d bring him out to use the litter box and he’d wander right back into the bathroom.
Brought him to the vet on Tuesday (this had been the first chance since he began acting weird the past Friday) and they took blood and ran tests. The vet said that he could tell he was severely anemic and was guessing it could be the Leukemia or a bug causing it. He prescribed Doxycycline just in case it in fact was some sort of bug and I spent the next day fighting with Skippy trying to find ways to get the medicine into him. He wasn’t having it.
Got his test results back yesterday morning and they weren’t good. He barely has any blood (anemia) and his red and white blood cells are off the charts (by a LONG shot). It’s bad. The Vet was pretty sure by this time that it was Leukemia – so we said go ahead and do the actual Leukemia/AIDS test and see. Positive.
As soon as I heard it was “potentially” bad (because you know doctors won’t be negative unless it’s really, really bad) I began to mentally prepare (i.e. completely break down). How would I tell Xander? Would we consider putting Skippy through the blood transfusions and chemotherapy just to prolong the inevitable?
I decided to just be honest with Xander. I was visibly upset but had to let him know why. I told him that Skippy was extremely sick (which he knew) and the Vet didn’t think he would make it. Skippy would soon be heading to Heaven to be with God.
Xander understood but was obviously heartbroken. He’s worried about Skippy. He wanted to make sure that we had enough photos of him so that we could remember him. I swear – five year olds are amazing. He’s taking it much better than I am. He checks on Skippy every few minutes and gives him a scratch on the head (to which Skippy gives a “meow”) and makes sure his water bowl is full. I am doing the same thing though because I am so scared of the one time Xand goes in there and Skippy is no longer with us.
I’m giving it another day or so – I guess I am in denial here thinking he will miraculously get better. I compare it to my miscarriage last year. You know it’s “over” so why prolong it? But – it hurts too much to just “pull the plug” on it.
We will be bringing him over to be put to sleep – if it doesn’t happen naturally in the next day or so. I already got a card from a local company who does animal cremation so that we can keep his ashes with us. My parents did this for our little dog Gizmo when he passed away and to this day when I go to their house I look as his little memorial and photo and smile.
I posted the other day on my Twitter and Facebook a question … "should I assimilate to American breastfeeding standards and order a "nursing cover" or two for this baby? I nursed Xander in Europe." I got some pretty interesting and even surprising answers back from my friends, family and followers!
I decided to look up the laws for breastfeeding in my home state of Virginia.
According to the NCSL (National Conference of State Legislatures); Virginia exempts breastfeeding from public indecency law, have laws related to breastfeeding in the workplace and also exempts breastfeeding mothers from jury duty. Also, the state of Virginia allows women to breastfeed on any land or property owned by the state.
Here are some of the “legalese” versions:
Va. Code § 2.2-1147.1 (2002) guarantees a woman the right to breastfeed her child on any property owned, leased or controlled by the state. The bill also stipulates that childbirth and related medical conditions specified in the Virginia Human Rights Act include activities of lactation, including breastfeeding and expression of milk by a mother for her child. (HB 1264)
Va. Code Ann. § 8.01-341.1 (2005) provides that a mother who is breastfeeding a child may be exempted from jury duty upon her request. The mother need not be "necessarily and personally responsible for a child or children 16 years of age or younger requiring continuous care during normal court hours." (2005 Chap. 195, HB 2708)
Va. Code Ann. § 18.2-387 (1994) exempts mothers engaged in breastfeeding from indecent exposure laws.
Va. House Joint Resolution 145 (2002) encourages employers to recognize the benefits of breastfeeding and to provide unpaid break time and appropriate space for employees to breastfeed or express milk.
But – none of the rules state that I have to have a nursing “cover-up” – so I wonder if that’s actually written into law. I know as far as “now” goes – it’s been ranging over 100 degrees here, so you would believe that if I were nursing a baby now there would be no “cover-up” since it’s hot as hell out there. But – this baby is due to make her appearance in November thus negating any “it’s freaking hot out” excuse.
Some of the responses to my original question included:
“Nah, a big crochet blanket works nicely”
“YES! Nursing is a beautiful gift one can give their child. Looking at ones boobs while doing it, not necessary”
“I never used one”
“I never used one except for when the in-laws visit”
“I used just a lightweight blanket”
“Lurkers can see more at the beach than they can from a nursing mom.”
I wont go into the possible breathing issues because that’s a debate in and of itself (like blankets restrict breathing, etc). I didn’t do the research so I’m not going into that here. I know that personally, when I was nursing Xander I couldn’t KEEP a blanket over his head because he would simply pull it off. I nursed everywhere in Spain and even in Germany and France (even on the flights around Europe and to and from the US) and had no issues. None. I even nursed while in Applebee’s here in the states with no cover up and no one said anything to me.
I’m not sure why I even asked people’s opinions on the matter since I’m just going to do what seems right for me anyway I guess – which most likely will be to use a light blanket to “latch on” and just remove it after that. Babies have the right to eat when they are hungry and people just need to get over the fact that boobs were created by God to feed offspring. They aren’t just “playthings” during sex.
I get more offended seeing girls with their boobs hanging out looking like whores than I ever have seeing a mother nurse her baby.
To quote both my friend and a Facebook group – “If you have a problem with it – put a blanket over YOUR head!”
On March 5th on NBC a new family-history centered television show will premier. The show features seven celebrities on a journey back in time as they discover more about the ancestors who came before them. The celebrities include Sarah Jessica Parker, Lisa Kudrow and Susan Sarandon, Brooke Shields, Matthew Broderick, Emmet Smith and Spike Lee.
A short video:
I’m into researching my family tree (genealogy) so this show sounds really neat! I love to hear stories about my ancestors – I know they came to this country a LONG time ago (on my Mom’s side in the late 1600’s) and at least one was a joker who was apparently a horse thief!
I read a few reviews on YouTube and noticed that there were some people complaining that “normal people cannot afford a professional genealogist” – well, they are probably correct – but a “normal” person has all the access to do it themselves! I’ve been working on my own genealogy since I was 12 years old and began on (and still use) Ancestry.com! Now since I need more detailed information I access the website (for free) at my local public library. Local Mormon churches also have free access to a lot of genealogy information and are very happy to help visitors out.
So do you research your family tree? Will you be watching “Who Do You Think You Are?” this Friday?
I haven’t blogged in awhile now … I have been busy and haven’t been much for the whole ‘articulating of the thoughts’ lately I guess. I think I’ve been in a slight funk lately due to the weather cooling off and generally looking grey and doom-y. I have no reason to be all ‘emo’ though. I had a good week, got good grades in both classes last term, have a new bebe kitteh under my desk chewing on my toes and had a great Halloween with friends. Oh well – I’m entitled to a little ‘emo’ every so often.
So – here are some pictures from both Halloween and our (night before) Halloween Party:
Here is Xander dressed as “Bumblebee” (Transformers)
Alan and I on Halloween (I still suck using my X-Shot)
Alan and I at our Halloween party. HE was completely thrashed. I wasn’t (for once).
My GIRLS and I at my Halloween Party. They look gorgeous and I look pregnant, lol … Next year, next year …